Can tantric massage help when the fire is fading?
Hi!!
Ever thought about this question? So many people experience this. In the beginning you meet somebody. There is the right chemistry and your love life is as it was never before. After a while it starts to fade and it is like the spontaneous element is gone. And that is something that we all crave for. It has to “Just happen” and should not be premeditated.
But is it realistic that a long term relationship always means having spontaneous sex? It is different for everybody but often this is not the case unfortunately.
What to do about it? You can talk with your partner and try to find new common ground to make things better. Try to spice things up as they say. When it doesn’t work you can have an affair, see a tantric practitioner, an escort or enjoy erotic massage. In the worst case people brake up.
I guess that part of all these things sits in our genes. When men get older they often, not always, feel attracted to much younger women. Just put your self back in time 10000 years. Men were hunters and gatherers and women nest makers. Part of that is still with us but we live in a different world now. Religion, culture and tradition play a role as well.
In some cases tantra can help. Tantric massage is in the modern western world often a pseudonym for stylish erotic massage and orgasmic bliss. Well nothing wrong with that. But in some cases it also stands for a more spiritual form of sexuality. One where you are taught to connect with your partner. Where you learn to prolong your sexual arousal. Where you first of all learn to recognize and next regulate your true sexual energy and potential. Riding the wave is a very pleasurable experience but also serves a purpose: the longer you can control your orgasmic energy and the better you are able to postpone your ejaculation the more you will be able to connect in a deep spiritual way with your partner while experiencing at the same time a fantastic sexual bliss.
Breathing and tightening your pelvic muscles helps controlling your sexual energy as well.
A tantric masseuse works with your energy, building it up and slowing it down. If you experience tantric massage on a regular basis, either via your partner or via a good provider or both, you will develop more and more control of your sexual energy. You can learn to orgasm without ejaculating. The full body orgasm. The energy is projected inwards and not outwards. It is a very bodily and very spiritual experience and can really bond you with your partner.
Or if you are single (or not and need a break) it is deeply relaxing and gives you new energy. Over time tantra can help you develop a new vision of sexuality. One where the experience and the sensation of arousal and the connection with your partner are as important as letting go in the end. And once you master this it will be you who is in control of all this. Internal sexual energy can make you feel charged and energized for the day. It can give you the wonderful feeling that your partner is with you, a truly deep tantric experience.
My clients come to me for many reasons. Many just want to relax and feel aroused at the same time and be intimately touched in a nice and sensual way concluded by a wonderful orgasm and ejaculation. Great.
Others are really on a road of discovery and they come to develop their sexual and spiritual awareness in connection with their own body and sexuality. Great as well.
So all in all it doesn’t matter why you come to see me and (hopefully) like my session of tantric massage.
I am not in the traditional tantra camp and I am also not per se in the modern tantra camp. I have created my own tantric massage session that is there for you to enjoy.
If you read this and like to respond and share it here on the blog that would be very nice. Thank you!
Have a lovely day and let tantra give you new ideas and bring inspiration in your life.
Regards,
